| Vineet
- A Story of Grit & Survival
He was
13 years old with three younger siblings. Their father had
abandoned them a year ago and their mother had since then
been doing all kinds of menial jobs to keep them from starving.
They lived in a one room rented shack in a remote corner
of the city, across the river Yamuna. When the CanSupport
home care team made their first visit they saw an emaciated
boy with a drainage tube stuck in his chest, shivering in
the icy cold of a Delhi winter. He had only one sweater
and his mother had washed it that day. He would have to
wait to get warm.
This
is the story of Vineet (name changed) who was diagnosed
with Hodgkin's lymphoma, a very treatable cancer of the
lymphatic system when caught early. Almost two years before
the CanSupport home care team made their first visit to
his home in December 2002, Vineet had been referred to the
Institute Rotary Cancer Hospital (IRCH) at the All India
Institute of Medical Sciences (AIIMS) as he had been losing
weight and energy. He also had a node at the base of his
neck. The doctors carried out tests and informed the father
that his son had a curable cancer, which would cost approximately
Rs. one lakh to treat. Vineet's father was a daily wage
labourer who could not dream of raising such money. However,
he begged and borrowed and subsequently Vineet received
eight cycles of chemotherapy till July 2001 when the money
ran out. He then stopped coming to hospital.
When
he returned a year and a half later it was with his mother.
He now had a persistent cough, and suffered from pain and
breathlessness. The doctors rebuked his mother soundly for
not having brought the boy earlier. They said that the cancer
had spread all over and that there was nothing further that
they could offer him. Vineet was referred to the pain and
palliative care clinic at IRCH where he was started on pain
killers and other supportive treatment. They in turn referred
him to the CanSupport home care team for follow up care.
It was
clear to the visiting team on that first visit in December
2002 that the needs of Vineet and his family were many and
varied. For one, there was not enough food to go around.
Vineet found it difficult to eat, not because he could not
swallow, but because each morsel he ate was at the expense
of his younger siblings and his mother. In fact this was
his greatest anguish and he shared this with the team. From
now on, the team began to provide food rations and warm
clothes to the impoverished family as well as medicines.
Despite her abject poverty, Vineet's mother had her pride
and was anxious that her neighbours did not get the impression
that she had been reduced to begging. Therefore, this exchange
usually took place at a distance from the house and the
goods were carefully concealed under her shawl.
Besides
the imperatives of earning a living Vineet's mother was
also trying to cope with the nursing needs of her sick son.
The nurses on the team were able to advise her about the
care of the drainage tube that Vineet had in his chest and
also on the need for general hygiene. The doctor prescribed
a codeine based cough syrup for Vineet's persistent cough
that had till then kept him awake all night. Also, as Vineet's
pain increased he was put on codeine tablets and towards
the end on a small dose of morphine. This eased his pain
and increasing breathlessness. It was the job of the counsellor
to get Vineet's mother to accept that her son was sicker
than she would want to imagine.
Vineet
was often left at home alone with his two young sisters
and younger brother. Not that he minded. He loved them dearly.
In fact, when the team asked him what he desired most of
all he mentioned a tour of Delhi not so much for himself
as for his mother and younger siblings. Unfortunately, soon
after, Vineet began to decline rapidly while Delhi continued
to be in the grip of a cold wave accompanied by thick fog.
We regret that this outing never took place. However, one
of our volunteers did donate a hand held video game to Vineet
which became his prized possession and gave him much pleasure.
Vineet
died on the 11th of January, 2003. The team had by then
visited him nine times offering him and his family much
needed symptomatic relief and emotional support. They were
grateful that they had been given an opportunity to ease
the passing of this very special boy.
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